Now before you go assuming what this post is about, it’s not really about milk. SURPRISE, SURPRISE. It’s about Communication, Relationships and Needs.
Relationships can be tough/trying at times. You have two individuals with two different sets of experiences, two different sets of beliefs and two different sets of expectations. Add into that mix the ingredients of satisfying the other person physically (yes, I’m talking about sex), mentally and emotionally. These added ingredients can add a lot of pressure to the relationship. One also needs to remember that this is and should always be a two-way street.
The other item to keep in mind is that no gender is immune from these needs/wants or the pressure and stress that comes from it all. I personally am a firm believer that no relationship should be based solely on the physical/sexual pleasure component of the relationship. If it is, more often than not, it will fail, fail quickly and fail in spectacular fashion for all to bear witness to. We, as humans, need to have all of our needs met in order to create a strong and lasting relationship.
Now, before you start to get mad at me or more mad at me for this topic/ conversation, please understand that I bring this up so others will actually have the courage to talk about it. As a society, we have become so afraid of “starting something” that we just don’t say anything. You could be in what you see as a great relationship personally but if you are missing something in the relationship and don’t vocalize it to the other person you will eventually start to feel the pull to leave or spend more time with someone else who fills that void within you.
My analogy for this is that if you go to the store for milk but they are out of it and you keep going back to the same store for milk but they are still out of milk, eventually you will just go to another store and another store until you find one that has milk. When this happens, both parties are at fault in my opinion. You for not stating your needs/desires to your partner at a bare minimum and your partner for not wanting/caring to meet the others needs to satisfy the imbalance in their life. By no means am I condoning this negative behavior (shopping at other stores for milk while keeping this store), I also don’t want to hear the individuals complain when it does happen. It is inevitable in any relationship that if needs aren’t being met/satisfied, they will cheat or leave to fill those needs.
Communication is a must in any strong relationship! I encourage you to be friends first. Don’t be afraid to talk about the hard stuff before adding the physical/sexual component of the relationship into play. The sooner you can do that the healthier your relationship should be and the more enjoyment you both should get out of life. Life is too short so get yourself some milk. 😁
Centered from the Heartland 